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Pastor, We Have to Talk About Our Family

January 14, 2020

A murderer walked into a Texas church. That was neither the first time, nor will it be the last time that evil men and women want to kill our brothers and sisters at church. Unfortunately, the leaders of our religious bodies are reluctant to face the issue of church security. That is true in every faith I’ve examined. Your pastor, minister, priest or rabbi all face a common problem. We live in a time of religious competition where parishioners will go somewhere else if the pastor demands too much them. To understand their position, think of a pastor as a spiritual workout-coach.. and we are lazy parishioners. If the congregation is still sore at at the pastor by Wednesday, then we won’t come back for more next week. That explains why so many pastors refuse to examine church security. Here is how we can help good men and women see the light.

Look at the problem from both sides of the pulpit. The congregation wants to ignore the problem of evil. Most of the congregation chooses to be defenseless in public. Only a few of them bother to protect their family at home. Most of the congregation is immediately uncomfortable if you point out their vulnerability. They want to close their eyes and sing louder so they don’t have to address their responsibility to protect the congregation.

We see a similar situation with the pastor and the church governing board. Most of them are men and women of words, not actions. They talk about evil, but few of them wrestle with evil every day. In some congregations, they will lock the shed that holds the garden equipment, but will leave the doors of the church open and unguarded when the congregation is inside. That says a lot about what they value.

We can’t blame them. Most pastors and church governing boards don’t know the questions to ask in order to think about church security.

  • People come with problems. Parishioners are preyed upon by both criminals and crazy people. Churches are attacked by their members and by people outside the congregation. There are no safe and sacred places; our churches are more dangerous than our schools.
  • The congregation is vulnerable everywhere. We see parishioners and staff victimized in the church parking lot, the daycare facility, the classrooms, kitchens, back offices, and in the chapel.

Protecting the flock at all times and places is a very demanding task. It is beyond the ability of most congregations. If we can’t protect them, then we should let the congregation protect themselves. That brings us to the meeting.

Those who choose to be defenseless in public usually advocate for being defenseless in church. They are in the majority and their point of view will win unless someone else speaks up. Fortunately, there are other points of view.

Each of us is a gift from god and each of us deserves protection. Each of us is also called upon to be a shepherd. We should protect ourself, protect our family, and protect our neighbors from harm. Love is more than what you feel and what you say. Love is what you do.

We don’t tell god to stop the rain and give us heat and light. Instead, we build a church. God also gave us the will and the means to protect each other, and we should. If your congregation doesn’t love you and your family enough to protect them, then you need to find a congregation who puts their words into action.

Church security is largely unseen and therefore easily forgotten. You’ve probably been in churches that had an extensive security effort. You were busy listening to the sermon, so you didn’t notice.. and that is a good thing. Just because you don’t notice church security doesn’t mean it isn’t there and isn’t important.

Ask your pastor and church governing board a few simple questions. You deserve an answer.

Do we have a security plan?
Are we protecting everyone on church property?

Our churches have a lot to do. We can’t blame them for not solving problems they don’t understand. Help starts with you asking a simple question.


I gave you 700 words, but I had a lot of help.
The Faith Based Security Network
Book- “Evil Invades Sanctuary”
Book- “A Time to Kill: The Bible and Self-Defense”
Book- “Faith and the Patriot: A Belief Worth Fighting For”

13 Comments leave one →
  1. MaddMedic permalink
    January 14, 2020 11:54 am

    Reblogged this on Freedom Is Just Another Word… and commented:
    My church has a security plan called please carry if you can. I do…

    Liked by 1 person

  2. January 14, 2020 9:05 pm

    People who’ve never dealt with a violent stalker often wonder why you might want a gun in church. But people are most vulnerable to stalkers when they are on set schedule, at a known location. That includes…

    To and from work.

    Picking up and dropping off kids at daycare or school.

    To and from religious services

    These are exactly the places where the gun-fearing Left says you shouldn’t be armed. Making you that much more vulnerable.


  3. TPOL Nathan permalink
    January 20, 2020 10:37 pm

    Dear Rob:
    This was a great attempt at an article, and I thought both about reposting it AND sending it to quite a few people, because you are making some excellent points and it is pretty well written. I realize I’m going to sound harsh to you, but there are several reasons I can’t do either (post, or forward).
    You are trying to motivate religious people – mostly Christian – to do something, and that is good. But when you show disrespect for their God (using lower case “god” consistantly), you are turning people off. And when you assume that a preacher (whom you call “pastor”) is “in charge” of a congregation, and not its elders (which are really not a “governing board” but closer to that than your assumption that all churches are one-man rule situations), again, you are turning people off. (Especially when the picture you are using is of the White Settlement Church of Christ in Texas where the preacher (NOT a “pastor”) works for and reports to the congregation’s elders (as do the deacons, including those who fought this attack.))
    And when you make assumptions about the attitude of members of churches – which may be right some but far from all the time, you are again discouraging your readers from paying attention to what you are saying. (Again, since that congregation DID do exactly what you are saying (correctly) that many congregations do NOT do.)

    And what you are saying is important. I’d like to pass your wisdom on to others – but will have to significantly rewrite it to make it palatable enough to get them to read and seriously think about it. May I do so?


  4. February 2, 2020 6:55 pm

    This is a topic of discussion with a few of my church going friends. We are currently talking about how to get our pastor/preacher to inform the pew warmers of what they should do incase of a shooter situation.
    He is reluctant in the least but we have hope. You bring out some good points and I will be passing on the post. Thank you.


    • February 2, 2020 7:09 pm

      Low key. Less is more.

      We care about our brothers and sisters. We’ve asked a few people to help protect us when we’re here. End of sermon.



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